Natural Birth vs. Epidural
Updated: Sep 15, 2020
If you're expecting your first, or even your second baby thinking about how you go about your birth can be nerve racking and scary! Let's be honest, I don't think there is one Mom who wasn't a little stressed out about delivering. Its a HUGE deal! I have had three healthy babies and births and I am so so so, thankful for that! I just wanted to share my experiences so that it might help guide your decision for your birth plan!
My first was born September 2015. I went into labor about 10:30 pm and almost got sent home at 4 am because I was only 3 cm dilated. Well, I wasn't going home. I tuned in and listened to my body. I relaxed myself and allowed the contractions to dilate me to 4 cm around 5 am. I was then taken to my room. I was nervous, but really wanted to meet my son! I went through 18 long hours of labor and he arrived! I went the epidural route with him. I wanted to have him with no drugs, but looking back I was SO unprepared for natural childbirth. It takes a lot of preparation to be able to endure that type of pain.
Flash forward to June 2018 I delivered my daughter. I wanted to have her without epidural but gave in and got it during the "transition phase". That phase is NO joke. I felt like I was going to die from the pain of the contractions. I was 7 cm dilated when I got the epidural and it only took to half of my body and I am so thankful I decided to get it here why: The umbilical cord was wrapped twice around her head and I pushed for THREE very long hours. If I would have been feeling that pain for that long I probably would have passed out. Either way, she made it here safely and I am so thankful we both were healthy afterwards!
And last but not least, my last baby girl was born December 2019. I was induced because she dd not want to come out! 39 weeks my doctor gave me the go ahead to induce and I took him up on it. I was so tired chasing around my 4 year old and 18 month old that I was ready to get her out to say the least. I got to the hospital at 7 am and had pitocin flowing at 8:30 am. Now mind you, I had prepared for this birth. I had been taking hypno birthing classes and using my hypno birthing app to learn meditation and so on. I had my head phones, my heating pad, techniques and essential oils to help get me through labor. I am here to tell you natural child birth is no freaking joke. I was progressing very slow at first. I was about 2 cm when I got to the hospital and about 3 cm at noon. Contractions really started picking up at about 1 pm. They were coming every 3o seconds! It was insane. I was listening to my app and trying to stay calm but there was not much I could do that took my mind off the pain. I looked at my husband and said "I don't think I can do this. I really don't." I had told him prior to going to the hospital that at all costs DO NOT LET ME GET THE DRUGS, so he didn't say anything when I said that. He probably wasn't sure what he should do. I was yelling all kinds of profanity and bad words while waiting on an epidural that was never coming. When I asked the nurse to prep my fluids for the epidural that's when things started happening. I was yelling "OMG she's coming, I'm about to have to start pushing soon" The nurse checked me and I was 6 cm dilated with babies head reallllly low. The nurse started turning on the heater and all the lights and within 30 minutes Dr. Rodriguez came into the room. All while I was waiting on my epidural LOL. She came naturally 30 minutes later. A little after 2 pm, with not even a Motrin. The picture below is me after she arrived. Just like with my other two it was love at first sight but I will say it was a completely
different experience. I could feel everything. I could feel the umbilical cord still attached to me and baby. I was so in the moment. This is something that I will never forget. I always wanted to do this and I have always been the kind of person who doesn't follow through with goals (i.e. school, diets, etc.) But THIS I did, and I was so proud of myself for it. Here's the thing, there is nothing and NO ONE that can prepare you for the pain of childbirth. There are things that can help you but you will not know until you're doing it. If natural childbirth without epidural is something you are really passionate about, I say go for it! I have lots of tips and tricks to help you through if you choose that route. But here's the thing; if you can't do it do not beat yourself up or think you're any less of a Mom. Because I'm here to tell you, that one day of their life doesn't compare to all the hard days to come, Mama. It's a tough job, but it will change you forever in the best way. For me, it saved me, from a road of heartache that I was headed down but that's a story for another day.